I love a fresh start.
Sure it sounds cliché, but I do.
I’m not huge on resolutions. However I enjoy making choices that will help in the long run… who doesn’t? And I enjoy instituting my own changes.
Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest… you name it. The only thing my eyes seem to take in on these sites are either negativity or 24/7 relationships. the negativity just needs to go. But the relationships… I just don’t get it. Why does everyone think that the world wants to hear “I just had a great date with so and so”… okay, so let “so and so” know that and you’ll both share that great date together. You know what these things do? They make everyone else wonder what they’re doing wrong and question their own life.
One of my good friends told me the other day, “so people are getting married and moving and in relationships… that’s their story and it’s not yours. But that doesn’t make yours any better or worse. And in the end, you’ll be glad you had your own story and not anyone else’s.”
So those people who think their relationship is the headline of the daily news every…single…day… they’re getting blocked. If something has the power to confuse me and make me question what I’m doing every day when I know that I’m in the Lord’s will, it shouldn’t be allowed to stay in my life.
With all of these social networking sites, we have the power to show our eyes what we want them to see; we take in what we want to take in. This year I’m going to finally take that control that has always been there and only allow the positive, uplifting things be shown to my eyes and taken to heart.
This year is going to be an adventure. I know that college ends in May, and that’s about all that I know. I could end up anywhere, doing anything with anybody. But it’s my story and God’s going to write it because I’m allowing Him to.
Guys don’t seem to understand what girls around my age go through.
Believe me, I’ve tried explaining it; they don’t see it.
Girls in their late teens/early twenties are already thinking about marriage and planning their weddings. It’s almost insulting when someone else says they’re engaged. I always feel like they’re rubbing it in faces of the world’s single ladies. Society has created this stigma that happiness = marriage. And I don’t know why because the divorce rate is at its highest. You’d think wise young women, and men, would think about this decision a lot longer and pray a lot harder.
After the recent slew of engagements, my mom was talking to me about it. She knows I question my purpose of being single right now when it seems like everyone else I know isn’t only in a relationship but trying on their white gowns and picking floral arrangements. She made a wonderful point. The people in the Bible that God used didn’t go with the flow and didn’t do what society expected of them.
Think about it!
Moses could’ve easily lived the life of pleasure in Egypt, but he ran away from that to do a great work for God. David didn’t do what was expected of him when he killed the giant. Daniel was told by society not to pray, but he still did it. The three men were thrown to the fire because they didn’t worship the idol like everyone else around them, and they survived. Mary… her friends were married and having children before she was. But God chose her to carry Jesus.
When you stand apart from the crowd because you’ve given your all to the Lord, He can use you in such a mighty way. I’m single because God wants me to be; if he didn’t want me to be, then he’d tell the right man to pursue me. Sure I’ve been called “wife material” since high school, but just because I feel equipped to be a wife or mother one day in my eyes doesn’t mean God wants that of me yet. Until then, I can rest assured that by standing strong in the Lord and not getting carried away with what everyone else is doing, He will use me for something great. And that excites me. Frankly, I’d rather do a work for the Lord than go cake testing and make seating charts for the reception.
Here’s a realization post.
I don’t remember what number I’m on. 24? Think so.
Realization #24: (a) What you want vs. What you need
“You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.”
Yes, they’re lyrics. And yes, there’s truth in them. The relationships that make us grow and make us become better people are the ones between us and another person who tell us what we need to hear. A lot of times what we need to hear isn’t what we want to hear.
Personally, when I’m going through a rough time (school, stress, exhaustion, girl emotions) I want to hear “it’s gonna be alright” sprinkled with a little advice to make it better and maybe a “let’s go get ice cream or some flowers to make your day better”. I smile and I move on until I get bogged down again. However one of my closest friends doesn’t do this, and I hate it. Until a week ago. He gave me usual reply, something along the lines of “it’s okay, it’ll all be good… so get over it”. He doesn’t say it in a harsh way. But it’s not the lovie response I want to hear. As I pondered his response this time, though, I realized it’s what I need to hear… he’s right, the problems I allow to bog me down aren’t that big of a deal. And when I face them and look back, I see that. But he’s trying to keep my head on straight from the beginning rather than let me worry and fret for nothing.
That’s what I need. And now I’m thankful that I see that so I don’t take it for granted. And it makes me better when I can take this to heart.
(b) How does it affect you spiritually?
How does a relationship affect your spiritual life? Has it been lacking since you’ve become closer to one person or a group of people? Has it been stronger than ever because of who you talk to on a daily basis? This is such a small thing that you don’t notice being affected right away, but it’s one of the most important! It’s simple, really… the right kinds of relationships are the ones that bring you, as well as the other person, closer to God and make you better people. If a relationship isn’t doing that, double check its purpose in your life and your intentions in it. It’s dangerous to develop close friendships and/or feelings with someone who doesn’t encourage that desire to be as close to God as possible for both them and you.
If you see your spiritual life lacking for this reason, fix it. Take it from someone who’s been down that road. It’s not a good relationship, now matter what you think or wish to happen. God has to be at the center of it for it to be fulfilling. So learn from my mistake sooner than I did!
I just want to decorate cupcakes all day.
And sip coffee and clean my own living space and decorate and be crafty.
Does that make me domestic? So be it. I’d have a blast.